Are you hoping to find a girl who you can be in a steady relationship with? This article will go over some of the things you can do that will help your chances with any girl.
You don’t have to try to act cool or be a try hard; just be loose. Don’t set out looking for a girlfriend, or you’ll just end up looking desperate. Self confidence and self sufficiency are extremely sexy qualities in a person, and you will not seem like you have either of these if you’re begging every girl you meet to go out with you.Look to make good friends rather than a girlfriend. This means you should talk to as many women as possible, not just girls you’re immediately attracted to. Making good friends with women will help you practice holding conversations with them, as well as learning how women feel and think in general. More importantly, you’ll be helping yourself feel less lonely without desperately seeking a girlfriend.
The more people you meet, the bigger pool of people you’ll have to choose from. Don’t be picky about who you meet or how you meet him—the nice old man down the street may have a gorgeous granddaughter your age and the somewhat annoying girl from last night’s party might have a friend who’s perfect for you.Go out and pursue hobbies you love. If you’re not sure how to start meeting people, sign up for activities that sound fun to you! Check forums, listings, classifieds, and listservs for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or passions. You can also explore new interests or activities. You might find a new hobby and a girlfriend all in one go! Don’t depend completely on the internet.
No matter how much women would like to admit otherwise, looks are an important part of the dating game. Bad body odor, smelly breath, and greasy, unkempt hair are simply not attractive to most women. Shower regularly, brush your teeth twice a day, and stay in shape. While you don’t need to be the best looking person out there, you do need to make a good first impression.Take pride in your clothing. Again, you don’t need to be stylish, but clean, unwrinkled clothes are always better than the opposite. Avoid wearing the same thing every day, especially if it’s just sweatpants.
In addition to making you more attractive, taking good care of your physical appearance will boost your self confidence, which in turn, will make you more attractive, boosting your self confidence, and so forth. While cockiness is never a good thing, knowing that you’ve got good qualities will make you much better at marketing yourself.
Don’t use “canned material”, “nuclear attraction” routines, or other social robotics. The best way to make a connection with someone is to come from the heart and live fully in the moment. What you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it. Socializing is about exchanging energy, not being a wordsmith. When in doubt, just say “Hi”.In unconventional strategies, in order to connect with a girl, you have to “dis-connect” with her first. This is actually making the girl take sudden notice of you and making her connect with you instead!
Girls love people who have a good sense of humor, and the key to having a good sense of humor is to be lighthearted, and unabashedly yourself. As long as you’re not making fun of people in a mean-spirited way, anything goes. Is your sense of humor perverted? Slapstick? Sarcastic? Go with anything, as long as you don’t try so hard that it becomes fake.Don’t worry about whether or not she thinks you’re funny because you know what? If she can’t laugh with you, then this isn’t a girl you want to spend a lot of time with anyway. And who knows? Maybe another girl—one whom you hadn’t noticed before—will be laughing so hard that her soda comes out of her nose, and maybe you’ve just found your soulmate.
Keep all your friendships slightly flirty to avoid falling into the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you want to try to get with all of your girl friends, but being a little flirty will help them remember that you’re a potential partner, not just another good friend. Even if they’re not interested in you, they may be more likely to set you up with a friend.Break the touch barrier. Take a few little “touch risks”. Be playful without being creepy. Grab their elbow or out your hand on the small of their back to guide them through a crowd, grab their upper arm and laugh if they say something funny, etc. If they don’t like it, they’ll definitely let you know. Touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you’re reasonably confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to you.
Most women like men to take the initiative, at least at the beginning of the dating period. When you phone her to set a date, have in mind at least two attractive options to offer. Don’t contact her and ask her what she wants to do without proposing an alternative yourself, or she will most likely think that you are lazy or not putting enough interest.For example, if you talk to her and the topic of your date comes up, say something like: “Well, I had thought we could go to this new amazing restaurant downtown… And I have also been wanting to go to the new bowling center in the mall… Did you have anything in mind?” If she likes one of your options, she will tell you, and if she doesn’t, she will propose something else and you will have demonstrated your assertiveness. If she says she doesn’t care, just choose out of the two.
Once you have met a girl that you feel you truly connect with, you need her to like you. If you’ve done the above correctly, she’s probably already interested, so now you just need to seal the deal. Invite her out for a date or a cup of coffee. Offer to pick her up, walk her there, or take the bus together. Not only is this polite, but it will give the two of you more time to talk during the course of the night.Don’t ask her out over chat or text. Give her a call or ask her in person. Though a small gesture, it means a lot to a girl and shows her that you’re not just looking for a quick hookup.
Offer to pay. Go to this date expecting to pay. Again, this shows manners, and it lets the girl know that you’re not cheap. She’ll probably protest out of politeness, but unless she’s really sincere, insist.
After the date, don’t text or call right away. Some people set a general rule of waiting for 48 hours before calling a girl back. You don’t have to give yourself a set time limit, but you do need to avoid looking desperate. Don’t call or text her right after the date—give it at least another night.Be the one to end the conversation. Whether you’re texting or calling, when you feel like the conversation is drawing to a close, make sure you’re the one to end it. This will make you seem busier and will always leave her wanting more.
There is nothing wrong with initiating the text/chat/call in the beginning. It’s actually showing that you’re interested and serious and not looking to play games. Be laid back and relaxed about it. If she sees you’re serious about her, she’ll take initiative that will surprise her. If she doesn’t, she’s not that into you.
Wait a few minutes to reply to texts. Replying the instant she texts you will make it look like you’re just sitting around waiting to hear from her. Wait 5 to 20 minutes before replying to most texts. Note that you shouldn’t wait too long, or the conversation may get lost.
If you still feel a good vibe a week or so after the first date, consider asking her out again. Consider making it slightly more romantic than the first—go out to dinner rather than coffee or hang out just the two of you instead of with a group of friends.Kiss her! If the mood is right and you haven’t already, take this opportunity to give her a kiss goodnight. If ever your faces are three inches apart, and you’re both staring at each other, it may be a good time to kiss her. Move in slowly to give her time to react, or push you away if she feels uncomfortable. Look for the signs that she wants a kiss. If this is your first kiss with the girl, leave it at that, even if she invites you in. Just reply “Not tonight, but next time!” This will show her you want something more meaningful than just a hookup while conveying that you are still interested.
Each relationship evolves differently. Sometimes, you’ll have to initiate all of the dates until the two of you are officially a couple. Sometimes, she’ll initiate. If the former, do your best to read her signals while you’re together, as well as the ones over text to gauge if she’s uninterested or if she’s just shy.Gauge signals in person. If she responds well to your flirting, laughs at your jokes, and seems comfortable around you, she’s probably interested. On the other hand, if she sits away from you with her arms crossed or if she refuses to look you in the eye, she’s probably not. Try grabbing her hand when you’re walking or putting your hand just above her knee during a movie or during dinner. If she pulls away or seems uncomfortable, she probably hasn’t warmed up to you just yet.
Gauge signals over text. If you feel like you’re always stretching to keep a text conversation going or she always replies with short answers such as “great.” “okay.” “yeah.” etc., you can assume that she’s probably not interested. She likely knows these answers don’t lend their way to a meaningful conversation, and is just trying to be polite by responding without giving you the wrong idea. However, in person signals are always easier to rely on. If you’re getting mixed signals, go with the in-person ones over the signals you get over text. In a dire situation, talk to mutual friends to help you better understand her behavior.